Saturday, March 17, 2012

e[lust] #34

Below, you will see volume #34 of e[lust], an online journal of the best sex blogging content on the web. My story "Traffic Stop" is in this edition.

Photo Courtesy of JM from There is No Spoon!
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #35 ? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! Note: Wondering why there is no Top 3 this edition? Read the latest Editor's Note to find out why, and what you can do to help prevent this from happening in the future.
~ Featured Posts (Picked by Lilly) ~
The Ultrasound and the Fury- I cried softly and my partner moved closer to the table so I could lay my cheek against him for comfort and support. Then they brandished a wand and explained they needed to take pictures inside of me. And told him to get out.
Vagina in the Wild - Adventures in Pantslessness - They are self-cleaning and self-lubricating. They are a wonderfully well designed body part that speaks of feminine power and beauty. They leave wet spots on the couch.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
The Ultimate Guide to Silicone Sex Toys – With Metis Black of Tantus, Inc. - I picked the brain of Metis Black, the fabulous woman behind Tantus Inc, makers of some very awesome silicone sex toys. Get your sex geek on and find out some myths and facts about silicone sex toys!
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Kink & Fetish
As Is Custom
Consent and negotiation
Fishnets and Spanking and Sleep
In room entertainment
Ladies' Night: My First Time at an All-Womens' Sex Party
Learn the rope of knots: Overhand Knot
slapping...drinking...and other wacky fun...
That Moment
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
An Open Letter to Rush Limbaugh
Erotic-On Me
Eyes Wide Smut
Strangers on a Train
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Bondage Insecurities
Cunnilingus 101
Getaway Sex vs Everyday Sex
Gifts from Lover's
Innies, Outties & 3-Ways
Im 35 and My Mum Can Hear Me Having Sex
Mono or Poly
Mmm, the kissage!
Never Pinch a Sadist #3: Relationship Rules
Primary? Alpha?
Safewords in the Real World
The long distance thing
The Next Evolution – Swinging-Open Marriage-Polyamory
Erotic Writing
A Good Day and Sexzy Night
50 Ways to Fuck Your Lover
Blissful Candlelit Climax
Cunny Honey
Easy Like Sunday Mornings
first date
In which... I go to my first party (Part I)
I’m the SlutHow It All Started
Mount'n Dew
Our Sex Diary (Part Two!)
Some Truth...About Cocksucking
She Takes Control
The Chair - The Execution
The Beast
That Familiar Maddening Thrill
The Importance of (Emotional and Physical) Self-Love
Vignette 2: Traffic Stop
Working Out
Whore’s Mouth

Monday, March 12, 2012


like steam rising on water
your heat is obvious from a distance

so i slip out of my shorts before
i slide in beside your sleeping form

warm scent escapes the open sheet
musked sweat and cologne drifting up and out

your body responds instinctively, rolling towards
and wrapping itself possessively around me

your rough hands begin to rove unthinkingly
under my shirt and between my legs

i very softly tell you no
though i know full well you do not hear

your fingers sleepwalk across my flesh
like a man lost in the dark

crooked and repetitive
you keep circling back to where you have been

sliding further down the back of my panties
holding tighter to my breasts

heat-drugged and slow
we sigh ourselves repeatedly back to the brink of sleep

each time we awaken slightly
your breath is quickened in my ear

i find solace in your unknowing touch
so solid and expected

i smile slightly each time i push your hand away
comforted by the sureness of its return

so much so that you search in your waking dreams

a hunger that is primal sweetness and lust
rolled into something we call love

Spooning - fine art print by Aurora Jenson
For more information on the condition of on the label below this post.  My husband "suffers" from this harmless (though sometimes annoying) condition.  Crazy stuff.

Saturday, March 10, 2012


There are bodies colliding everywhere,
undulating to the room's vibration:
music, conversation, laughter,
and passing traffic.

It is dark and night
and the liquor flows freely
between deviant lips in shades
of red and coral and pink.

Sugared lust drips down chins
between breasts;
hands push up skirts,
down pants,
between bras and skin.

And the men at the end of the bar
are confused by the scene...

Women caressing each other,
men rotating partners,
a jumble of sexual energy
going in no particular direction
finds welcome between the thighs
of each willing participant.

When it is time,
numbers are exchanged,
initial partners are selected,
and the group pays up.

There is another place,
a car-ride away,
where kisses and fondling
and hard-core flirtation
will become more:
naked, writhing bodies
tied up in sensual knots
touching each other,
watching and listening to each other,
pleasuring, sucking,
tasting, sharing our most
important possessions -
our cunts and our dicks
our breasts, our tongues,
our husbands and wives.

The men and women we came with
might not be the ones we cum with...
or the ones who will take us home
in the morning...

A perfect picture of trust and autonomy in love.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Anal Sex: unlocking the back door

Okay...I'll admit it. I like it.


Not all the time, mind you...and I certainly would not be the first to bring it up, not that I have anything against those who do.  Well, okay...I think I asked for it once - but there were many glasses of wine that led up to that invitation.

My discomfort talking about it brings up a valid set of questions:
Do most women like anal sex, but are too embarrassed to request it or even talk about it?
Do most women want nothing to do with anal?
Are women asking for it all the time, and I've just been out of the loop?

I came across this article in my internet travels:
What Women Love & Hate About Anal

My guess is, many women who haven't tried it would like to, but they are freaked out by it.  Porn has certainly made it more acceptable, but then we all know that porn is completely unrealistic.  Those girls douche like there is no tomorrow and have stretched their anuses to the max to accommodate the ass-poundings they get on-screen.

We normal gals do not anal douche or bleach our assholes on a regular basis (unless I'm missing something), and we are usually not camera ready all the time (on occasion, I do a fair number on myself in the grooming/shaving department when I know I will be having an "audience").  That being said, anal sex is one of those things that one really MUST ask about before one delves in.

So, from a non-porn star point of view...what do I like about it?  Well, like the article says, it is a totally alien feeling, but, once I relax (and I must admit, it usually only happens after you've done it a few times), it can really feel quite good, especially if there is concurrent vaginal or clitoral stimulation (or both, better yet).  I've been known to masturbate with 3 anal, one vaginal, and one clitoral...and I must say, it is through-the-roof quick and explosive (which has its ups and downs).  It's also sort of kinky, so if I'm in the mood to be naughty, it can lead to a sexy night of debauchery.  Since hubby and I do not indulge all the often, it means a twist to liven up the bedroom...and it can definitely make my husband happy (something about the tighter squeeze, I'm guessing...and of course - the forbidden nature of the act).   I also really enjoy "doggy style"... my ass in the air - hands on my hips - and so it's seems natural to extend the action upward a bit.

And what do I hate about it? Well, it really does need to be slower than vaginal sex.  Even if I'm really lubed up, it just doesn't feel good to go fast.  There is also the fear of "messiness".  Self-confidence can be a huge issue for women (or anyone for that matter), and the cleanliness factor is a big deal.  When you're trying to be sexy, the last thing you want to see is a penis covered in your own ...

and we'll just head into a new aspect of the topic from here.

Honestly, I'm not in the mood for it all the time.  But, when I am, it's an interesting change.  I haven't ever tried double penetration with two guys, but I have had my own man and a dildo...very lovely, I must say.  And dp is a bit of an interest, I'll admit.

So, what about fingers?  That one isn't as big of a deal...anymore.  The first few times my man tried it - back when we were first made me a bit uncomfortable.  Mostly a self-confidence issue...b/c honestly, it always feels good.  Men, like it, too...from what I've seen - which I'm sure is an even bigger confidence issue for some of them - that whole - "will she think I'm gay because I like the feeling of a finger up my ass" conundrum.  No, I will not.  Why?  Because I've had a finger up my ass and I know what it feels of course I know you like it.  But, I get it.  I don't like to admit it either, so I don't blame you.

But why is that?  Why are some of us so freaked out about the back door?  Is it the "dirtiness" factor?  The "naughty" factor?  The taboo?  Probably a bit of everything.

All I can say's worth a shot.  My husband worked his way in a little at a time, literally.  First, he'd just rub his finger tips across.  Then he'd push his finger around it.  Then, if I didn't protest, he'd slip it in just a tiny bit.  If I squirmed too much, he'd back off and never miss a beat, but if I did react, he'd continue.

We call it "fight club".  And the first rule of fight club don't talk about fight club.  Or at least that's how we play the game.

So, how about you?  Girls - do you like it, love it, hate it?  Guys?  Anyone have stories, advice, tips, secrets...Do tell!  Feel free to comment.